Divorce Grounds - If I divorce on grounds of adultery, but I am the adulterer, do I give up my rights?

If I divorce on grounds of adultery, but I am the adulterer, do I give up my rights?

He is abusive. I had an affair and have just found out that we can expedite the divorce if there has been adultery. Will I be giving up any rights to the matrimonial home, etc. if I file for divorce on grounds of adultery?

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.You need to speak to your attorney about that, as the laws are different everywhere regarding divorce.
In many states it won't matter, but you should consult an attorney in your state to be sure of applicable laws and trends.
The key in divorce is to make yourself look good. Don't volunteer information like that. Doesn't matter what the reason - you will get divorced and it takes time no matter what. You want financial security - don't jeopardize that.
Nope...It will be "irreconcilable differences". Infidelity runs so rampant these days...it's beyond common anymore. And it won't have a bearing on your case. It didn't in mine...he cheated for years. No one cared.
nah states don't really care bout that,, you'll get a divorce on account of ilreconsiable differences, and no i cant spell,,
Dose it really matter ? If he is abusing you in any way then do whatever it takes to leave him for good .
Do not volunteer information like that. I don't know if you have children or not, but Adultery is not something you want on record regardless. Take more time for divorce if that is what it takes...you do not know what may come back to "bite" you later on down the road! Don't just always do what is convenient for the moment. Think of what the consequences might be.
You would have to talk to lawyer, although I'm betting that your husband is going to asked for it anyway. And who can blame him. I mean really, you cheated, do you think you deserve it. If he was abusive, there were other paths you could have taken to solve the problem rather then having an affair. If it were the other way around, would you want to leave your home through no fault of your own. If you do lose some rights you have to admit, it is only fair, it will only matter if you have children. As for your home, well, you should have thought about that before you decided that the price you pay for lying on your back compensates for the price with your soul and integrity. Certain things you get to earn, the house, should be his and you should not get in the way of him having it. YOU broke the vow, he did not.
This is not the place for advice on this issue. Get in touch with legal counsel.
it depends if u slept with someone else first. if u did then u will lose all rights
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