Divorce Grounds

Is hidden bisexuality grounds for divorce?

I didn't find out he was bi until I caught him responding to personal ads on craigslist. Does that count as adultery?

Public Comments

1. It would if it were my husband. Ew.
2. If he is having sex (of any kind) out side of marriage, that is adultery.
3. Most states are no fault, so even if you caught him in an all male orgy with a donkey, it wouldn't matter to the court. If you want a divorce, get one. Answering an ad on craigslist, while shady and not appropriate, is not grounds to get anything.
4. That would depend on if he went through with it. I'm sorry you have to go through that. Not cool.
5. If he acts on it, it is. The sex of the cheater doesn't matter, it's over.
6. Anything can be grounds for divorce if you obsess over it enough.
7. i don't know, bu thidden "buy-sexuality"...definitely
8. yes, that's adultery in my books. and being bisexual is a sin. I also believe that marriage should be for life, so try other options before getting a divorce.
9. oh yes! and ewwwwwwwwwww 8+$
10. yes
11. Although the creepy factor is slightly higher, it doesn't matter what the gender is of the person or people he's trying to hook up with. He's cheating. I'd certainly divorce of that.
12. all 50 states have no fault divorce laws.. You no longer "Need grounds".. it is termed "unreconciliable differences".. In truth, responding to a personal ad in my view is a good reason to file..
13. I wouldn't want a poo covered stick, that's all I'm sayin.
14. Him being a cheater is a character issue not a sexual preference issue.
15. Not unless he acts out on it. Fantasy is one thing but actually doing it is def grounds for divorce. Its the same wether its a man or woman.
16. Adultery is only if he is meeting and having sex with the people on line. Hiding his bisexuality is not grounds for divorce as far as the courts are concerned. It does however meet most states requirements of irreconcilable differences. Irreconcilable differences are those grounds which are determined by the court to be substantial reasons for not continuing the marriage and which make it appear that the marriage should be dissolved. If you and your spouse have irreconcilable differences then you cannot agree on certain fundamental issues and you never will. This would fit if gay or bisexuality is offensive to you. This doesn't give you any special leverage in court. Just your everyday divorce because we don't get along type thing. You might want to have a heart to heart talk about his faithfulness. Whether he is looking to meet guys or women it means that for some reason he is looking to cheat. That would be a great concern for any marriage. I have no problem with bisexuality, but I do believe in being faithful to the one your with. I have also meet a lot of married bisexual men and most love their wives but also want to satisfy their same sex needs. Which drives them to things like craigslist. If he is a cheater then he is a cheater period. I also believe that if 2 people love each other and willing to work and communicate almost anything can be worked out. Good Luck
17. I think anything major that a spouse kept "hidden" can be grounds for divorce, if it has a big impact on the marriage. That goes for anything..not telling you had a kid out there somewhere, hiding a huge debt, criminal record..etc. As for his responding to personal ads..I think that's serious no matter who he's responding to, whether male or female.
18. Yes. If you later on decide to have divorce and with enough proof, try opting for mediation services first. They help you plan out your case and possible settle it at a much lower cost than actual divoces cases are handled by lawyers. They will work for your best interest with or without lawyers.