Divorce Grounds - How soon can I divorce my husband on the grounds of adultery?

How soon can I divorce my husband on the grounds of adultery?

Salaam. He won't give me a divorce so I'll have to do it another way. I've been told its two years...tell me that isn't so. I have proof (recordings, text messages etc). I'm not registered married in my country of residence (UK)...it's nikkah only. Thanks! been maried for 6 years btw. Thanks for the one sensible answer so far...

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give him a divorce. I am here to marry you in shalla
wats nikkah....and y are u in the ramadan section? if ur not registered as married then how do u expect to get a divorce...and if u were registered...u can beat his ass out ASAP especially if he cheated
It depends on how long you have been married for. But if you are doing it on the grounds of adultery, you only have six months to do it as then you can't divorce on the grounds of adultery after that period, unless he does it again after that six month period. You can issue a separation at the minute anyhow on those grounds and then take the proceedings further. I also have heard of people getting divorced on-line as its much cheaper and everything gets posted out to you. Its all legal.
I suggest you make this a court matter. You have every right to divorce your husband, and as he has committed adultery, i do not see why you should not.
the bible says you can divorse on those grounds and sooner the better but you must end up forgiving him.
Try talking to an Imam
Wa alaykumussalam Islamically you can take a "khula" Sister, try and contact your local ulama for guidance as to how to go about doing it. Hope this helps!
Sallam, the best thing to do is talk to an imam,The U.K has sharia law (LOL), well sharia courts, which deal with marriage and issues regarding families
What makes you think you'll benefit from this divorce? Under Islamic law the children (if you have any) go with the father. Also you will be considered "used" in the eyes of other potential Muslim men because you have already lost your virginity and you might possible have baggage. Sorry to sound inconsiderate but thats the reality of Islam.
Some not very polite answers here. As far as I can remember you can divorce him in under a year.. Citizens Advice could give you a more accurate idea , so give them a ring and see. As you are not registered as married here the laws may be different for you..
From most of the scholar opinions i've read. Your islamic marriage was actually never valid since you didn't follow the marriage laws of your country. I guess intention counts. Umm, its suppose to be 4 months of cooling off and 3 periods before the woman gets remarried...in case she's pregnant, to help establish who's child it is. If she is pregnant, its until she delivers before she can get remarried (but the divorce can happen before that). The 2 years is how long the husband has to support the wife in case she does have a child If you separate at the beginning of the cooling off, then that includes the 3 periods.
You are not legally married and thus do not need to divorce. There may well be Sharia family courts in the UK but first and foremost you must abide by the law of the land, you are NOT married, you NEVER WERE married, there is nothing to be done. You have been living in sin!
You have to be married for a minimum of one year. You aren't technically married anyway so could just leave. Islamic law is not valid or enforceable in the UK. You may however have a common law partnership under British Law so investigate that. I would advise you not the use the Sharia Courts or they will screw you completely. Women have rights under British Law.
Giving back the dowry will grant immediate divorce . This is called Khole خلع. It is in the Quran . فان خفتم الا يقيما حدود الله فلا جناح عليهما فيما افتدت به And if ye fear that they may not be able to keep the limits of Allah, in that case it is no sin for either of them if the woman ransom herself. 2:229
If you arent married legally than it doesn't matter. Just leave him and move out. If you two had kids it will be more trickier.
Firstly, according to UK Courts he cannot force you to remain married to him. Also, you are not married in the eyes of the law (which is what matters in this) anyway so you can just leave or kick his ass out of the house. Scumbag. Good luck. You say this on your avatar: "'If women in the Muslim World today don't have their rights and if a particular society oppresses women, it does so in spite of Islam, not because of it.'" That is not true and you will see that after the outcome of your "divorce". You should have gone the legal route. I hope you realise that Islam does not give women rights at all.
Just divorce the bozo, don't follow any religious law regarding the situation. Leave him, take his money, his car, his house, and kick him out right now !i
You made a mistake by not registering in the UK; according to the state you are not married. You will need to talk to an Imam in the UK concerning what should be done in your case. I wish you all the best.
he wont give you a divorce?!? who the bloody hell does that?!? im sorry i usually answer your questions but i do not know what to do in this specific situation.. talk to your mum?
Salam wu alakom sister, Firstly sorry to hear this has happend may God give you strenght. I have recently done a course on this: Answer to your question read 2.228 on wards in the QUR'AN. You don't have to wait has he has committed a SIN=ADULTERY. You can if you wish leave the house and have an enolment done asap. YOU DON'T HAVE TO wait a certain amount of time. Do it as soon as you wish. call the Imam, say you wish to see him but could he arrange for a third person to be present as you will be going alone. God be with you.All the best
i know some people have suggested talking to an imam but as a muslim woman i think you might find that uncomfortable you might want to try talking to the imams wife so she could explain the situation so you wouldnt get embarrassed. Or you can talk to a very religous women..
Sorry to hear about your problems. Are you sure this is absolutely what you want. If you have children you need to be absolutely certain and sometimes resolution is better and there is always blessing in forgiveness, inshallah. Is this the best solution for all involved? I think maybe marriage guidance counselling might be the best port of call first of all. If you can find a Muslim marriage guidance counsellor, through the mosque or Islamic centre then that might be a good idea at this stage. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but who ever said you are actually technically not married has a valid point.I read an article some time back about some Muslim women who had been "married" for years and then upon "divorced" by the Imam, they found they had no legal rights to protect them regarding money and other welfare issues.Why so? Well they were not technically (legally) married!! I think that in the eyes of the UK law you are not technically married so you need to bear that in mind as you could lose your rights if you proceed with a divorce. I think legally you are regarded as a common law wife. A few Muslim men living in the UK may have exploited this to their benefit in the UK: having one Legal wife and another "common-law wife" (in the eyes of the UK law anyway). I think Muslims living in the UK should always go to the register office and make it official if they have not done so in their country of marriage..i.e if marriage was only by "nikkah". Most Muslims do make it official in their country of marriage anyway, by paying a visit to the register office and getting a marriage certificate..but this obviously does not apply in your case, as you have stated. In your case you only need the involvement of your mosque and Imam, but tread carefully as you may lose your rights since you have never legalized your marriage. Forgiveness is a virtue....who says so? Alllah (swt) has said so. Think hard and long before you rush into this decision. Six years of marriage is quite a long time together. Hope you get the peace and solace your heart seeks. Salam.