Divorce Grounds - Does this sound like legitimate grounds for divorce?

Does this sound like legitimate grounds for divorce?

My husband is angry with me because he says it "disturbs his sleep" if I nudge him when he snores. It sounds like a joke, doesn't it? Well, the joke is on me. He doesn't want me wake him to stop the snoring. He doesn't want me to sleep on the couch. He doesn't want to sleep in the other bedroom. I guess I'm just supposed to expire of sleep deprivation. And now he complains that he's "miserable" because he's not getting enough attention from me, and he "never expected things to be like this." So he wants out. I think it sounds like a great idea. I think there may be other issues ---- When I told him I needed help cleaning out the rental storage unit because many of the boxes were too heavy for me to lift ....... he BOUGHT ME A DOLLY. How thoughtful.

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No - and if this is the biggest problem in your marriage, you should consider yourselves lucky.
lol uhh no
If this is a legitimate question, you are too immature to be married, and it will never last. Sorry to say, but if you are talking divorce over this, then neither of you are in it for the long haul. Good Luck, and don't have kids
Lol ok dont nudge him next time just "accidentally" push him out of the bed and then when he wakes up just pretend you dont know what happened like you were still sleeping
sound like he has some other issues going on.
Lord if it were I'd be divorced from my husband 100x over. He snores like a freight train and gurgles in his sleep....it's ANNOYING and deserves a good ribbing!!
LOL! yes, it's over.
I don't think they have a place to check that on the divorce papers. Well...then again it might be next to the "he never puts the toilet seat down" box
No. That is crazy. Neither of us snores usually but if I did, I would expect my wife to nudge me. Trust me, this has NOTHING to do with you nudging him. A happily married man would never say that. What is he unhappy about? It is almost always: - Money / money stress/ fights about money - Sex - loss of attraction you to him, him to you, both - General personality conflicts that have gotten very intense and ugly
Absolutely. He has sleep deprivation and you are the cause. This is a form of abuse. Abuse is legitimate grounds for divorce. Get an attorney.
no lol no
My gf loves me even though I snore. =)
Tell him that his snoring disturbs your sleep and that there are plenty of methods to get rid of snoring. And no, this is not a legitimate grounds for divorce. It seems like there are other, more serious issues if you mention divorce in the context of snoring.
Depends on who wants the divorce. LOL And the answer would be "no" in either case!
Are you KIDDING me? Is he an only child? This can't be true. Sleep in separate rooms.
He should realize that his snoring is disturbing your sleep and sleep deprivation can lead to all kinds of problems. Sometimes if a sleeper simply rolls over on his side the snoring will subside. Maybe you could try to wake him gently and say, "Honey, you're snoring, would you please roll over?"
no! he just needs to get over it or maybe go to the doctor to see what is causing his snoring if it's that big of a deal. I know my dad snores a lot more when he drinks beer right before bed or if he sleeps on his back. maybe you could try figuring out what causes his snoring and try fixing it!
No. It sounds like you may have bigger issues at hand. Usually when you start getting overly angry at the small things there's probably something bigger bothering you. Maybe you should sit him down and have a little talk with him about what you are feeling. You can always try sleeping in separate rooms so you both don't bother each others sleeping habits. Has your husband tried anything to stop the snoring? There are tons of different treatments for people who snore. Check out these sites http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/guide/five-natural-remedies-to-stop-snoring http://www.breatheright.com/products/nasal_strips.asp Do some research on line and see what you can do to make your husband quit snoring.
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No way honey - think of something more serious if you want out of the marriage. And be honest!!!
his snoring is grounds for divorce
No, just sleep in another room. You can't be disturbing his sleep just because he snores. Who wants to get the divorce over this? You or him?
LOL no its not, it can easily be resolved by sleeping in seperate beds/bedrooms if its that much of a problem.
no.
Look if snoring was really the problem he would be kind enough to sleep in the other room and feel bad enough about ou missing sleep. There are some deepseated issues going on here. I suggest counseling. He is using this excuse because he doesn't want to tell you what is really wrong and probably wants the out.
ROFL is this for real? what would that be in regards to reason for divorce? Sleep deprivation (on your part) or snores too loud? let me kbow please!
If that`s grounds for divorce then there`s a million reasons for someone to divorce me and I had better stay single. However! If the two of you can`t find some reasonable solution to this problem perhaps a counselor can help, unless your ready to throw in the towel and if that`s the case then by all means do.
Ask him to try nasal strips first.
I agree with you. Full speed ahead. I hope that there are no children involved. I am just sorry that it wasn't more obvious that he wasn't ready to give himself entirely to you before the marriage. That is the key element to a successful marriage. Every other aspect is secondary. If each person is willing to give themselves 100% to the other person, then it will work out. It's worked for me and my wife for over thirty years through all kinds of stormy life adventures. It's worked for my parents and they are well past their fiftieth year of marriage. Things like compatibility and common goals and all that other stuff cannot compensate for a lack of selflessness. And vice versa.
This is silly and completely childish of him. Also, forgive me but a bit selfish. He doesn't want you to do anything to disturb him, yet his snoring can disturb you and keep you up and that's ok? A bit hypocritcal. No, its not a good reason for a divorce, however his pure disrespect for you and your feelings would raise a red flag that there are other issues going on here....
I PROMISE to edit this tomorrow . . . and I have both a serious AND funny suggestion for you. But if he snores that bad . . . well, you do what I do . . . we escape to yahoo! because I will take the sound of a keyboard over the snorting (and those of you who sleep with purring snorers, God Bless Ya', but the gasping snorters are tough . . .) Bad Kitty -- email me your state . . . I seriously CAN help on this in a few of the states. Until then, type away . . let him snore and catch a nap in the meantime. HERE ARE MY EDITS: I remember the day my ex-husband proposed, using the example of the brass ring at the carnival. He saw me as the brass ring and was my protector, my provider, he opened doors, he ordered dinner for me (NEVER experienced by this fiercely independent woman before). I was provided an unlimited budget, a housekeeper was secured as well as a gardener. Sounds fabulous, doesn't it? HIS wife was not to do manual labor. My job was "dimple duty" -- I was the corporate wife who presented the public picture that he walked on water. We joked that as this wife, I was to be impressed and in awe of even his bodily functions. The other corporate executives envied him because he had such an adoring wife. I sat on a number of philanthropic boards -- learning that there are more than 20 types of abuse. Yes, twenty! I continue on these boards and share what I have learned. Bud the sad truth is -- you never know what goes on behind closed doors - never. The maid, the gardener (although it sounds delightful) was his way of controlling me. I love to "play in the dirt", I love to clean my own house - my way, I love my privacy and when you have a staff, you lose that. (Folks, please don't thumb down my former pity party. It's not like television -- it is a fishbowl) HIS wife was NOT to do manual labor. Period! So, here are the symptoms of the disease (and the dolly purchase was his treatment of the symptoms, not the disease itself): snoring, and his lack of empathy on the adverse effects on you. failure to recognize your limitations (9 bad discs here), controlling where you sleep, unwillingness to assist in what you deem a priority (yeah, I will get YOU a dolly - who is going to lift the darn boxes?) So, Bad Kitty -- he has no respect. He cannot even dig down into his soul to find "that head-over-heals" place in his heart that made him propose. Before you decide to divorce (unless you are writing for a friend), try to red, yellow, green cards way of communicating - it's a warning sign way of couples who REALLY want to try to make it work. If there is no willingess to communicate, then you should plan and plan well in advance, because without it, you will have a year of sheer agony and that is how I can help. I consult to women (pro bono) on this issue. Why? Because I didn't plan when my nose was broken in the presence of my then 5 year old. I left and never looked back. The lawyers are rich from my case alone. So, whether it be a friend or you . . . email me and I will give you some starters. It's not the snore -- the respect is gone. Even couples who wane in "being in love" respect each other. THAT is the key to longevity. Ouch -- the memories hurt. I do not ever want anyone to go through what I did and now I know how to help. I do not have a funny link anymore -- the "dolly" issue took all my self-effacing humor away for now. Now, a happy Mom . . . smaller house and MY garden :-)
Please don't just divorce for such reasons...and yes those appear legitimate grounds.
There's a lot more involved than his snoring. How long have you been married? My wife and I have been married 28 yrs now and she not only snores loud, but when she lays her head on the pillow I can count to 5 and she'll be sound asleep. She recently was diagnosed with sugar diabetes and has been on a special diet. Since she started the diet, she no longer snores as loud. Is he overweight, does he drink, there are a lot of reasons that can cause snoring. He could have sinus problems but his snoring isn't the only reason here. Try earplugs that are comfortable, making sure you're good and tired when you go to bed, even if it has to be first and falling asleep before him. Being very honest, there are probably things he doesn't like about you too. I'm sure there are things that "bug" my wife, but neither of use complain because "Love Overcomes All Obstacles."