Divorce Grounds

If a husband refuses to have a sexual relationship with his wife for several years is this grounds for divorce?

The state is NC. married for 12 years, no sex for 4 years. Wife is willing and able to have sex, husband just outright refuses with no reason. Husband refuses counseling and denies having an affair (of course he denies it)

Public Comments

1. You do not need a reason to divorce your husband. You signed yourself in and you can sign yourself out.
2. I cannot comment on the specific state law but yes, that would more than qualify for alienation of affection I would think. Either way it would certainly be more than reason to leave via no fault divorce.
3. I have a feeling he has an STD and does not want her to catch it. Insist he be screened for all sexually transmitted diseases.
4. Maybe he is not having an affair. Maybe he is impotent. As for grounds for a divorce, legally it is.
5. it would be grounds for me to get a file for divorce...and you don't need a reason for the courts...
6. I believe that in most states it's illegal to refuse sex with your spouse unless there's good cause. Time for a divorce, my two.
7. Oh, he should be glad I stayed around to 4 yrs. I would have barely made it to one...irreconcilable differences!!
8. Men hide illness like cancer. He must be sick
9. Most states have grounds which include fault-based and no-fault grounds. Consult an attorney.
10. you don't even need a reason to divorce any more. the courts call it: irreconcilable differences.
11. Just being separated for a year is enough to get a no fault divorce in most places. No reason is necessary just living apart for one year will be enough.
12. better sooner than later
13. The only grounds you need are your own. If you are that unhappy tell him. If he doesn't change tell him you want are going to divorce. If he doesn't change. Follow through.
14. Sweetie don't even go there. NO SEX FOR 4 (YEARS) and now your complaining. I do beleive that you have did adultery. I respect that. Find a GOOD LAWYER A GREAT LAWYER. Your husband denied you SEX for 4 (FOUR YEARS)
15. thats terrible! he needs to get checked up if he has a low libido or something he also needs counseling too, in order to see what is going on he took his vows.... the wife should warn her husband
16. My husband or should I say,soon to be ex-husband, refused to have sex with me for several years. I remember in the beginning that I would ask him to have sex with me and he would always have an excuse...I quit asking. I didn't really think there was anything wrong with me, but I knew he had lost it for me in a big way..After I got over the rejection, I eventually filed for divorce...I still do not know for sure what happened, but I did find out that he was heavily into drugs and that it was going on for alot longer than I realized...Then I found out he had been having an affair or two. At any rate, when a man refuses to have sex with his wife, then there is something wrong with him, NOT YOU...So divorce him and yes it is a legal cause for divorce in all 50 states!
17. dang that sucks, im sorry hun
18. sounds to me..... like you need something different..... perhaps a divorce is the way to go.