Divorce Grounds

My wife has started calling me Schmoopsie in public, Is adultery still the only Biblical grounds for divorce?

What are the biblical grounds for divorce ? “God hates divorce” (Malachi 2:16). Jesus said (Matthew 19:9), "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery ..." “Willful desertion as can no way be remedied by the church, or civil magistrate, is cause sufficient of dissolving the bond of marriage.” Infidelity and willful desertion are the only biblical grounds for divorce.

Are there any biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage?

What are Biblical grounds for divorce? We have been married for about 10 months. We went by all the rules,dated for a year,no premarital sex, the whole thing. About a month before we got married he had a nervous break down. He became very paranoid about his former employer,he really thought that they were out to get him.He also became paranoid about his neighbors and was hearing conversations about him in their apartment that were just not happening. Of course this really concerned me. I spoke with his mom and ask if this had ever happened before. She said that it had not. He spent a few weeks in the hospital and the doctors got him on meds and assured us it would pass. Prior to all this he was the the most stable man I had ever met. Rock solid faith...great job,loving ,compassionate and kind. Things seemed to settle down and we got married. About two months ago the paranoia came back..now its directed at me. The more I try to get him to get help the more paranoid of me he becomes. He believes that I am trying to destroy him and has become very emotionally and verbally abusive. I don't know what to do..I don't believe that he is in his right mind but there is nothing I can do to change this...I feel like I am going to just loose it as well...Biblically should I or can I get a divorce?

Grounds for divorce or biblical incorrect? I have been married 5 years. I love her very much but I don't feel that she is capable of giving me the love that I desire. She doesn't ever show me signs that she is attracted to me. The last time we had intercourse was back in 2007.She doesn't want kids and I pay every single 1 of her and my bills and feel like I don't even have a friend living with me. Just someone living in my house that I pay for and hear her say that it's half hers. Do you think that this is grounds for divorce or would it be incorrect by the bible or Even on a moral ground and why?

Is this grounds for DIVORCE? What do you think? Suppose a couple meets, dates, and marry. Later the man finds out that his wife is bi-polar and that she knew she was prior to them marrying. At one point during their dating the question had come up of whether there were any physical/mental conditions present in either person and they both answered no. Now the husband feels that every day with his wife is an emotional ambush and they have not had sex in the last 9 months. Is there a biblical case for divorce in this case and what should be the response of the husband?

Spiritually speaking please i need godly wisdom here, refer bible passages if possible only from the KJV trans? Ok guys, my wife just confessed that she masturbates to girl pornos. is it true this makes her an adulteress? is this biblical grounds for divorce? she's committing several sins against me and our mighty God. I think she's got homosexual tendencies and she's unfaithful of course. How long should i wait to tell her that this is not acceptable behavior and I would like to divorce her?

Do the JW's allow divorce/remarriage when the infidelity does not include intercourse? The Jehovah's Witnesses teach that the only Biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage is infidelity. Some define infidelity only as intercourse with someone not one's spouse. Some define it as any sex act in which the genital organs are used, again with someone not one's spouse. Would the Jehovah Witnesses recognize a divorce or allow a person to remarry if that person's former spouse had behaved unfaithfully but had not done any sex act involving the genitals? What if he/she touched other people only with his/her hands in a sexual manner, whether those touches were consentual or not, but had not had intercourse with someone not their spouse? What if they had an online love affair? Thanks everyone for the responses. The consensus I'm getting is that if the act does not involve the genital organs, it is not grounds for divorce. But to my specific question: are married Witnesses permitted to for example grab other peoples' breasts or buttocks then, and their spouses have no grounds to divorce them and remarry?

Why such large consequences for divorce (biblical) for Christians, but everything else seems forgivable? It Matthew Jesus says that only through adultery may a couple be divorced and allowed to remarry (the non-offending spouse only), any other reason is wrong and the spouse who wants the divorce and whomever they may marry in the future will always be committing adultery. What I don't understand, is if all sins are equal, and it is wrong (a sin) to become divorced why is it the only sin that doesn't seem to be forgiven when repented--but instead leads to continuing to sin long after the original sin was committed (the divorce). Jesus told Mary, go and sin no more and she was able to start her life over. Also, in the Bible Jesus says that if you look at someone with lustful eyes that you have already committed a sin with her in your heart--is this and viewing pornography considered adultery? If so, then would just about every divorce be justified on grounds of adultery (maybe not for viewing porn, but for looking at other men/women with lust? Can anyone clear this up? Maybe I should mention that I am NOT divorced, but grew up in a Christian church and was asked to explain this to a friend who is a non-believer.

Do men have the right to do this? If a woman dates or marries a needy man she ends up dumping or divorcing him but If a man dates or marry a nagging complaining wife does he have the right to divorce or dump her? Just saying..... Why do people divorce so easily and not standing on vows.... Why when bad times come spouse leave without biblical grounds for divorce....?

Which of these, if either, is the correct interpretation of Matthew 5:32? Ok, so me and my wife were having a friendly debate over the proper meaning of Matthew 5:32. For those of you who don't have a Bible handy, or are too lazy to look it up for yourselves, the verse reads as follows (taken from the NET Bible): "But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." The key word in our debate is the word the NET Bible here translates as "immorality". The Greek word is "porneo", or a derivitive of it, and, as best as I can tell, means any kind of immoral sexual activity. This would include adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, etc; It could also include fornication, but the context here has a married person in veiw, and so in this case obviously doesn't. But the word does, from my research, seem to indicate a physical act. Interpreted in and of itself, by itself, this verse seems to say that the only lawful reason for divorce in God's eyes is a physical act of adultery. The controversy between us arises when you look at the preceeding paragraph. In Matthew 5:27-30, the passages just before this verse, Jesus tells us that if we look at someone (obviously other than our spouse) with sexual desire towards them, then we have already commited adultery with them in our hearts. My wife seems to hold that this paragraph should be used to interpret Matt. 5:32, thus meaning that if a person has lust in their heart for someone other than their spouse, it is Biblical ground for divorce. I find this interpretation intriguing, but I also think it would have some nasty consequences. First off, there is no statement of a time limit for how long a person has to desire another person for it to be adultery at heart. A second would surely do, and for that second, that person would have been commiting adultery in their heart. So, by extension, if a married man was walking down the street, innocently passed a pretty girl, and instinctually looked at her, and then took one second longer than he should have to turn his head back and drive away any wrong thoughts trying to come at his mind (which is without a doubt still sin), then this could, by the above interpretation of Matthew 5:32 combined with Matthew 5:27-30, be considered Biblical grounds for divorce. If such a thing were true, it would have two very nasty, very unbiblical consequences. 1) It shatters the integrity of the institution of marriage, and nullifies the commitment that comes with it. I would guestimate that AT LEAST 90% of all married males (Christian included) have had at least one instance since they were married where their mind wandered into some place that it shouldn't have. I certainly wouldn't argue that this is right or justifiable, but I would argue that, under the above mentioned interpritation, it would mean that AT LEAST 90% of all wives had Biblical grounds for divorce. And in an age where couples "fall out of love" and get divorces instead of putting effort into their marriages, it would reduces the Biblical standard's so low that Christian's could seem to do the same thing and justify it Biblically. "I don't love you any more, and I know your mind has wandered at least once since we have been married, so I'm divorcing you." That is basically how the world does it. It shouldn't be how Christians do it. 2) In light of the first point, it would completely nullify Jesus' point in Matthew 5:31 and 32. The whole point of the passages between Matthew 5:21-32 seems to be to highlight how the people of that time were using "loopholes" in the law in order to act selfishly, and to avoid having to keep the commandment "love your neighbor as yourself", and to convict them of their lack of love. Jesus was rebuking those who wantonly divorced their spouses and remarried. But if the above explained interpretation were so, it would allow just that. Jesus' rebuke would be almost meaningless. Obviously, that is not so. My conclusion: Matthew 5:27-30 cannot be used to interpret 5:32, even though the passages are adjacent. They are clearly distinct passages with distinct, independant points. And "porneo" must mean a physical act. My wife, however, dissagrees. Let me make sure that all answerer's know that this is nothing more than a theological debate between me and my wife, she is not planning on divorcing me or anything like that. Furthermore, her take is that even in the case of unfaithfulness on the part of one spouse, God hates divorce and prefers reconcilliation, a point which I agree with her on. So, what is your take on this issue? I am interested in what position others take on this, and how they justify their positions. I would also love to hear any positions different from either mine or my wife's. Thanks for any answers beforehand, and God bless! Lime Kitty: I half agree, and I am impressed that someone actually made the observation that these divorces are not recognized by God, hence why divorce and remarriage is considered adultery. But the part with "except for immorality" seems to indicate that it IS recognized if adultery is involved. Matthew 19:9 seems to make this even clearer, clearly indicating that divorcing a wife on account of adultery, and remarrying, is not itself adultery.

Do you think you can find out why God puts certain people in your life.? I think that my marriage is doomed and it is like God has put someone in my life that I would be more compatible with and no matter how much I pray about it or work on it I can't get this person out of my mind. I feel like I have done what I am supposed to do with my current situation and it is time for me to move on...how do I know for sure what God wants me to do??? I have biblical grounds for divorce I just don't know what is the right thing? More Details: Married for 8 years. 2 kids. . I don't feel like I make my husband happy Husband was not a christian when we married but has since found christ in his life. He isn't the spiritual leader of our family and it bothers me. We have had probs in the past where I should have divorced him but stayed for whatever reason. Now I have been introduced to someone whom I am much more compatable with and I want to know where God wants me to go with it. When I pray I come up with what I think are crazy answers (like he can't have kids and I am supposed to have his baby)

Biblical remarriage after a divorce my fiancee is having second thoughts about us getting married because we both have been married before. Both of our exes are remarried. What are the biblical grounds for us getting married? Knew this would draw out some responses. In clarification, I am protestant.

Do I have to accept my sister's latest affair? For Christians Please...? My sister is 10 years older than me. As we were growing up she was like a surrogate mother and even helped lead me to the Lord later in life. She divorced her first husband when I was 8. When she left that husband she moved right in with her husband's cousin and a few months later married him. She had one daughter with him. About 12 years into that marriage she met someone online and ended up having an affair with him- this is while she is majorly involved in our church and a confessing born again christian. It just about tore our family in two! She decided to stay, we all forgave her and life went on. About about 7 years later she has gotten involved with an old boyfriend from high school. She has left her husband again and is filing for divorce. She has no biblical grounds for divorcing him. She says she loves him but she is not IN love with him. Again, our family is ripped in two. I love my brother in law as a true brother and I'm filled with disgust that she has done this to all of us...lots of lies, betrayal etc. I rebuked her using scripture several weeks ago and she went on a major character ripping rant on me...I don't know how to be around her or how to handle it scripturally. I do forgive her for her hurtful remarks and even for her mistakes, but should I really accept her new man? I ask myself what Jesus would do in this situation and I just don't know...She's bringing him over to our parents house today and I feel like just the act of me being there is like condoning this sin. Her divorce is not even close to being final so it is very much an act of adultery right in my parents home. She shows no remorse and has not repented of anything. I think she believes she'll repent when she has the ring of the new man on her finger. I believe this is deadly behavior for a christian to practice. How should one Christian treat another that sins willfully with no sign of remorse or repentance. I would appreciate some answers from fellow christians. Other people and religions can reply if you like but since my life guide is the bible I would appreciate answers based on that only. Please don't give me opinion. I'm looking for scripure here. I must add that I really am NOT interfering with her relationship. After telling her what the bible says regarding divorce and adultery I stepped back and have not mentioned it since. Again, you can reply if you like, but if you don't have scriptural basis it won't mean a hill of beans to me. Calling sin by it's true name is not judging. I have done exactly what the bible says to do when your brother/sister is in sin. Show them their error and try to restore them. Laheira, I believe you missed it in the original question. I do forgive her, but forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean you want to hang out...

Christians only! Marriage advice please!? Please only answer if you are a Christian. My husband has been addicted to pornography for over a decade and we have been married for a year and a half. He has not stopped pornography at all since we have been married. When I say pornography I mean DVDs, internet, meeting people online cyber sex, chat rooms etc. I don't think he has ever met anyone in real life although Im not sure about it. The other day I made a fake facebook account and sent him messages and he responded within a minute. I'm worried because in some of the chat rooms Im not sure if he's talking to girls that are of age yet. Also, my first laptop crashed because of a virus from porn that he put on it and i was so upset because the laptop was a graduation gift from my parents. We've also had huge phone bills at times from when he does stuff on the phone instead of online or a movie. This affects our sex life and our marriage in general tremendously. I just can't have sex with him after I find out about it, at least for a day or two. Although he recognizes it as sin, he really has no intention of quitting. He says he does but he always says it will probably keep happening, and that he wishes he could go back and not marry me since i have such a problem with it. He will not go to counseling or talk to one of our pastors about it. He also doesn't want me to speak to someone alone. Is this considered adultery? Do I have biblical grounds to divorce him? I really want out of this marriage but I have never believed in divorce unless it would be acceptable in God's eyes. Yes, I knew about it before but I assumed that since we weren't having sex then it would stop after we got married because we would be able to have sex. He IS a Christian. He is even planning to go back to school next year and get a degree in ministry. I know that Christians can struggle with sexual addiction. Also, I don't believe that marriage is to make people happy. I believe it is to make people more holy. More like Christ and selfless, but I think it might be in God's plan for me to divorce him because I know as much as his sin hurts me it offends God too, I just don't know what to do...

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT INFIDELITY? I have been married for 13 years with 3 children(DNA proven) I am totally faithful to my wife since we got married and my vows are clean till now.I am a believer in christ and thought my wife was till she proved me wrong last july 3rd.I am a good man both at home and my community church.10 years ago my wife went to sleep with a married man from 1999-2002.(Her reasons,"i was angry at youi thought you had a girlfriend only to know i am lieing to myself,i am sorry" Since 2002 she break ties with the lover after she had abortion. They slept 5x together and the fifth time my wife invited him to our home when I was away.The end scenario my wife got pregnant,took my money and Abort the baby for fear of being caught or loosing me. Since then,it has been kept secret and I never knew about it. Last month I got a hint from a friend, I asked my wife and she confess to all and ask for forgiveness. I am a believer and i know i have biblical grounds for divorce.The question is, CAN I FORGIVE HER BUT NOT STAYED MARRIED TO HER? She said she is sorry but I don’t believe she is sorry because I found out and thats where the confession came. Please help.

Need help with this question? 1. A person "not a christian" marries a non-Christian when they are very young. But is abusive. Spouce divorces that person. 2. The person after the divorce goes for treatment and finds they are Bi-polor, after starting a medical treatment, the person is undercontrol. Later the person becomes a Christian and after much study becomes a Minister. 3. Person re-marries but spouse commets adultery. Person chooses to divorce on Biblical grounds. 4.Person stays very active in ministry, and through desire to help (however misguided) tries to help an illegal to stay in the U.S. my marrying the illegal. 5. Turns out illegal tried to turn the tables and took the person to court to try to gain permanent residence by claiming "forced marriage". Person was found innocent and granted a divorce. 6. After doing ministry several years longer Person met and married a Christian. They work together in the ministry. DOES PERSON BIBLICALLY HAVE THE RIGHT TO REMAIN A PASTOR, MINISTER,or ?

Why not ban divorce? If Christians oppose gay marriage on biblical grounds why are they not pushing to ban divorce and remarriage? In the Gospel of Mark, Jesus clearly says any man marring a divorced woman becomes a adulterer and the women becomes an adulteress. Since adultery is banned by the 10 Commandments, why is Jerry Falwell and the like not pushing for a constitutional amendment? I'm not trying to start a fight, I just want to understand. Thanks for the great answers. I asked because I don't like the idea of so-called Christians beating people over the head with one part of the Bible and exempting themselves from another part. It's not fair.

Unhappy Marriage - Finally Giving Up - Christian? This is a really tough subject for me. I am a Christian (despite being quite disillusioned) My wife and I have had many years of unhappiness. Counselling didn't help since the start now we are past the 20 year mark. It has been a roller coaster and I find myself where my tank is finally empty. So many counsellors, so much stress, so much hurt. I have never entertained divorce, but it is now really affecting not just my health but my mind. I have always completely rejected divorce based on Biblical grounds. This isn't about asking someone to condone the divorce I am considering; it is about asking ... what would you do? I battle to sleep, my work is at risk because I am distracted, we don't take vacations together, no attraction, no connection, no warmth, forgetting who I am, with her closing doors and closing herself off progressively – since year 1. What would you do? Thanks Peachpop. That is great encouragement. For all the time I have been trying to do everything and there will never be an end to what could be done, rather an end to how much the heart can withstand. Brickie, I have " not given up" all this time ... I was determined that as time progressed that things would get better. I have been back a forward and only found worse responses. It's like this mouse running into a brick wall ... he only does it till he realises the wall isn't moving. It took me a long time to finally stop and reflect if I had covered every avenue that I or any sages could reveal. Thanks Space Ace. Helpful feedback.

Bible and Divorce? I have been married for less than a year. I feel like I should try and make this work because it is not biblical for me to leave my marriage. My husband and I do not share the same beliefs, the same child rearing techniques, and he doesn't want to work and be a provider. I feel like I shouldn't leave without biblical grounds. I don't feel like I have any. I also don't know how to stay in my marriage being miserable and having him pulling me back from accomplishments. There is a child between us, 18 mos old. He doesn't understand me or else he doesn't care to listen. I feel like he is selfish and here for himself. We don't live together or see each other much. He has an excuse for everything and I am tired of empty promises. I can't find very many verses in the Bible that talk about divorce that I can understand. I am lacking somewhere!!! Any one can help? I have tried to speak to my husband on several occasions. He walks away from me and leaves in the middle of the conversation. He doesn't want to listen or try to participate. He expects everything to work out for his best interest because I am his wife and I will provide for him. I am a pentecostal christian. He chooses to have no religious beliefs. He pretends that he wants to get to know God. I know that he is not doing it for the right reasons. I am in a marriage and I am doing it all by myself and I can not get him to help. I am raising 3 kids, carrying a 4th baby, and still raising my husband. We are seperated because he won't hold a job for any period of time. So we have lost our house and had to move back in with our families. My mom doesn't approve of him so he is not allowed at her house. He has hindered things. My kids didn't have food for the month, and he took $ from me that was diaper money for his daughter. I don't see this biblical or know how to get out!

Taboo Question on Marriage, Divorce and Sex? I think its safe that say that times have really changed; however, are times changing based on human/societal morals/preferences, in place of biblical standards? For instance, the matter of divorce. A bible states that only on the grounds of fornication can a marriage be dissolved in the eyes of God. For marriage, there are many instances of unfaithfulness and unjust treatment to the other spouse. Whatever happened to applying bible principles to keep a marriage healthy? As for sex ... The bible states that sex is only to be enjoyed between a man and a wife. Today, it seems like that rule can apply to just around anyone, and to fictional characters (porn stars). Now, I suppose you can call me a traditionalist, a bible-thumper, what not, but do you feel that today, society has veered off from the course and standard set in the bible? I'd be interested in hearing in all the responses. .

Help Me with Marriage? Hi My wife and I have been married for a little over a year. During this time we have never lived together as husband and wife. We have spent three weeks together. A week at a time. One week during the honeymoon. A week in December and most recently a week in June. My wife has filed for a divorce. I do not want a divorce. I want reconcilliation and for God to save and restore my marriage. My wife lives in Canada and me here in the US. I was denied entry into the country becasue of an event that occured 20 yeasr ago. We needed $1000 to complete a form that would get me into Canada but I could not raise that money and my wife did not want to help me. As I said she wants a divorce. I have researcehd the scriptures on divorce and remarriage exhaustively. I do not want to spend the rest of my life a single man. I am in my early 40's and this is my first marriage, her's too. I want to be able to remarry if the divorce goes through. Can I remarry under biblical grounds? Did my wife and I have a real marriage in the eyes of God? I feel like I am an innocent man. I did not commit adultery, abandon my wife, verbally abuse my iwife. I have been faithful and true to my wife but she wants a divorce so she can find someone else. I have been called to ministry and will this divorce prevent me? I love my wife and want to stay together. What can I or do I do?

Cheatin', Beatin', Tweakin'? Ok. So I'm married and very happily. My husband and I have only three conditions that will separate us and I want to know if anyone else has these or thinks they are a good idea? I know marriages are supposed to be unconditional, but even according to biblical standards, two of these are grounds for a legitimate divorce. I've just updated it a little to go with modern times. Our conditions are Cheatin' Beatin' & Tweakin' - "Don't cheat on me. Don't beat me. Don't get yourself addicted to any sort of illegal substance or alcohol. These three things adhered to (for both of us) and we are fine." Now don't get me wrong, my husband and I are quite happy and I have no doubt in my mind that these three things will never have to be worried about. But its good to set limits and define boundaries even in an institution as old as marriage. What do you think? Do you have conditions in your marriage or is it a free-for-all?

R&S Christians: Are there any "real" Bible fundamentalists? Or does nearly everyone cheat in some way? I ask this question partly because of an alleged Christian who recently asked whether it was violating God's commandments for Christians to ignore the verses in Leviticus that call for gay men to be stoned to death, while embracing other Bible teachings that they liked better. Didn't this raise the risk of everyone just cherry-picking the Bible for what we want to hear, this person asked. I think the anti-gay verses in Leviticus are morally barbaric, myself, but I thought it was an interesting question. But when we think about it, doesn't it seem that nearly all Christians cherry-pick the Christian scriptures to some degree -- pointing to the verses and the teachings that we like, while discarding others that we don't like? Aren't nearly all of us total hypocrites, when we claim to be fundamentalists and literalists? For example, Quakers & Mennonites & Jehovah's Witnesses and other "peace churches" basically insist on a fundamentalist, literal interpretation of Jesus's commandment in the Sermon on the Mount: love your enemies, and turn the other cheek. Yet for more than 1,000 years, most Christians have ignore these commandments or interpreted them very loosely, so as to justify continued Christian participation in wars. At several times in Christian history, a fairly large minority of poor Christians have seized on what Jesus said about "lay not up for yourselves treasures upon the earth" and "you cannot serve God & Mammon" and have either endorsed lives of voluntary poverty or -- in some cases -- religious movements dedicated to establishing communism. (The Hussites of Bohemia, for example, were notorious for this in the early 1400s). Yet most Christians throughout history have found ways to work around a literal meaning of "You cannot serve God and Mammon," and have found ways to reconcile their religious beliefs with lives at least partly dedicated to making money. Similarly, Seventh Day Adventists are insistent on the crucial importance of celebrating the Sabbath on Saturday, as the Jews did in the time of Jesus, but the vast majority of Christians today are content to celebrate the Sabbath -- or what they call the Sabbath -- on Sunday. For centuries on end, and still in the Roman Catholic church today, church officials have taken literally Jesus's condemnation of divorce, on the grounds that "what the Lord has joined, let no man set asunder." But across the US and western Europe, societies heavily influenced by Christian culture, divorce is increasingly common. I guess my question, therefore, is just whether all of us fail at being "real" fundamentalists. Which suggests to me that Christians who tolerate and even welcome gay people & lesbians in their churches are no worse -- biblically speaking -- than Christians who tolerate divorce, or Sunday observance of the "Sabbath" -- or Christian participation in war. Or capitalist investment banking. They're all bending the Biblical rules, aren't they? Just bending them in different ways? - question from a mostly friendly agnostic Added note for Green Eyes: I've read through the whole Bible several times, though it took me some time to do it. I therefore do expect some people to take the trouble to read my lengthy question, actually. It's much shorter than what Christians should be used to reading, even if it's longer than a bumper sticker.

hurt for her in the divorce and life? I was very hurt that our relationship went sour after 8 years and 2 kids. but since GOD has grounded me once again. he has opened my eyes to the fact that she does not want to change, but live in sin.even threw this seperation... my only heart break is the fact that in GODs word it states "the sins of the parents fall on the children." I would say that is true because her parents are divorced and grandparents as well.. we went into this witha divorce is not an option but I can lead the horse to the troph buit I cant make her drink... I am feeling like my life is now getting back on track and gonna finish my biblical studies degree. and be what GOD wants me to be to bring him glory. I will find that special someone out there someday he promices it.. I just wonder when I am 33 and not getting any younger....any advice on what I should say to her??

for all christians: when can you re-marry? Say you marry a person who has fornicated in the past. You met her whan you were 16 and immediatly started having sex. She had been sexually active since age 14. she tells you she was ina mental institution for months when she was 14. You know about it all and you marry her anyway. In fact, you have pre-maritial sex with her,and she has a child before you marry her. She was baptized at birth, and you were never baptized, but neither of you believe in god. Neither of you believe that marriage must be for life, and have various non-biblical ideas about marriage. In fact you engage in sexual contact with another woman (short of actual sex) with her consent on the day before the marriage. You have a second child. She exhibits signs of not really caring about you at all and treats you horribly. Two years later she committs adultery. You seperate but reconcile. Then she has another affair and treats you horrobly again. You have a third child. You dont' find out about the new episode of adultery until later, but before you find out, you have an affair and leave her. She attempts suicide and starts using drugs and abandons the children, leaving you to care for them alone for 6 years. In the meantime, you divorce. She acts terribly irresponsibly and immorrally. You experience a conversion and are baptized. She is diagnosed with a serious mental disorder. She is taken in by a christian couple,starts going to their church,a nd convinces you that she has had a conversion. The two of you resoncile again, thinking it is the right thing to do. You re-marrry. She immediately stopps goign to church and tells you that she never believed in god, that she was only saying that so she could have a palce to live (and consequently, you learn that you r-married her thinking she was a christian, only to find out you were deceived as well. She again treats you badly and eventually has an affair, even sneaking another man into your home while you are asleep and having sex with him. She leaves you for this other man and takes the kids and moves in with him. She falsely accuses you of spousal abuse in order to gain custody of the children. She divorces you and gets custody of the kids, moves in with her new boyfriend. They re-marry. Do you have grounds to re-marry? Why? If you read the question, i didn't say i didn't believe in god. Two people seemed to indicate that I didnt believe in god, one said I have the option of realizing that i don't believe in god. Maybe i am immature, and I wouldn't have re-married her if I had just met her at age 28, with no prior history, or if I didn't care about doing what was right or about her and the kids, but when you have 3 kids with a woman, wanting you 3 kids to have their mom in their life and and intact family is a motivator, and I honestly thought she was experiencing a conversion or change in charachter, and that being treated for her mental condition would make a difference. I was dead wrong, but it wasn't entirely my fault, and I don;t think I could have known for sure this would happen. Also, I was not totally blameless, and she was in her early 20s when she did all that stuff to me. You want to know what i think? Even if you assume that your church is 100% infallible in it's official teachings, there will always be officials in that church who are dead wrong. Therefore, trusting your major life decisions regardign what is moral and immoral to 1, 3 or 6 individuals, who don't and can't have all the information is no better than asking any respectible and knowledgable person or group of peopleto tell you what to do. What if the church officials are wrong? If you ask their opinion, and believe they misunderstand your situation, or are in error in some other way, are you to follow their direction anyway? What if they say you can re-marry, does that mean they are right? What if you think about it and decide their decision was flawed? Then what? Is it intentional sin to do somehting you believe to be permitted, which you have been told is not permitted by some church authority? I don't know whether I am free to re-marry. I am asking for information and advice

What do other Catholics believe about remarriage? Please help, I am very confused. I am an Irish Catholic who is very devout. I was married in the Catholic Church but due to physical abuse and adultery (his not mine) I was legally divorced several years ago. My marriage however was never declared nil by the Vatican. I have always believed and indeed accepted that even though I am legally divorced I am still spiritually bound to my husband eternally in the eyes of God. I have since met someone else. Although we have had no physical contact in the biblical sense we are both wanting the relationship to progress. I am really having a hard time with this spiritually as I consider this to be a potentially adulterous affair in the eyes of God. I have tried to discuss this with my Priest but all that seems to do is make me even more confused. What do other Catholics believe regarding this matter? Would this be viewed as an adulterous affair? What are the grounds for the Vatican to declare my previous marriage nil?

Need help with this question? 1. A person "not a christian" marries a non-Christian when they are very young. But is abusive. Spouce divorces that person. 2. The person after the divorce goes for treatment and finds they are Bi-polor, after starting a medical treatment, the person is undercontrol. Later the person becomes a Christian and after much study becomes a Minister. 3. Person re-marries but spouse commets adultery. Person chooses to divorce on Biblical grounds. 4.Person stays very active in ministry, and through desire to help (however misguided) tries to help an illegal to stay in the U.S. my marrying the illegal. 5. Turns out illegal tried to turn the tables and took the person to court to try to gain permanent residence by claiming "forced marriage". Person was found innocent and granted a divorce. 6. After doing ministry several years longer Person met and married a Christian. They work together in the ministry. DOES PERSON BIBLICALLY HAVE THE RIGHT TO REMAIN A PASTOR, MINISTER,or ?

Why are so many Christians & people married a long time gettting divorced? I heard today in a blog on the computer that more couples are getting divorced around 20 years of marriage, this happened to Steven Curtis Chapmans parents they were married at least two or more decades and they got divorced, why are so many christians either getting divorced or are divorced and why are people who are married many years are now splitting up as well? Has this always been the case or is this recently wide spread? Why do so many people divorce even when there is no biblical grounds or emergency like abuse? What is this teaching our younger generation?

How many times can a christian MARRY? let put it this way...say a woman gets divorce becuz her husband cheated on her. She has biblical grounds to remarry. Ok..what if this happens again? Can she keep getting married over and over?